Hey bro, let’s talk.
We’ve all been there. You invite a girl over, and she hits you with excuses like, “I’m busy,” or worse, she agrees, and then at the last minute… nothing.
Frustrating, right?
Well, today, I’m about to show you a dangerously effective way to get her to visit—even if she’s hesitant or thinks you’re “up to something.” Oh, and here’s the best part: I’ll also teach you how to make her feel so comfortable that things flow naturally when she comes over. Wink.
Let’s dive in.
Why She’s Avoiding Your Place
First off, let me break it down: you’re scaring her away.
Here’s why:
- You’re boring her.
If she thinks spending time with you will be as exciting as watching paint dry, why would she come over?
(Don’t worry, I’ve got tips on how to stop being boring in my other articles—check my profile.) - You’re coming off desperate.
When you beg her to visit or act like it’s a big deal, it sets off alarms in her head. She starts thinking, “He’s definitely up to something.”
Here’s the golden rule:
Never make her feel like you NEED her to visit.
The Trick to Getting Her Over
The secret? Don’t just ask her to come over. Give her a reason to visit that feels casual, fun, and non-threatening.
The Ogbono Soup Trick
Let me walk you through this classic move—it works like magic.
- Step 1: The Call
Call her and say:
“Hey, I’m trying to cook ogbono soup, but I need directions. You sabi cook am?”
She’ll probably laugh and say yes. Ask her to explain how to make it, and act like you’re writing it down. Make it playful and lighthearted.
- Step 2: The Callback
After about 30 minutes, call her again:
“Babe, you gave me fake directions o! The soup no dey draw. Plus, it’s red here and brown there—what’s going on?”
She’ll laugh, and this is your chance to tease her:
“Next time, just tell me you can’t cook ogbono instead of setting me up!”
- Step 3: The Invite
A couple of days later, call her and say:
“I feel like eating ogbono soup again, but I can’t trust your directions anymore. You’ll have to come over and teach me yourself!”
Use the word “teach” instead of “cook.” It sounds more playful and less like you’re asking her to do all the work.
If you’ve been building rapport with her (using my tips from other articles), chances are she’ll say yes.
Why This Works
- You’re giving her a reason to visit.
It’s not just about hanging out—it’s about teaching you something. - You’re keeping things light and fun.
Girls are more likely to agree to casual, non-serious invites. - You’re not acting desperate.
You’re confident and playful, which makes her feel relaxed.
Other Excuses to Get Her Over
Here are some more ideas you can use:
- “I got a new action movie. Come over, let’s watch it together. You bring the popcorn, and I’ll get the drinks.”
- “Do you know how to play chess? Come over, let me teach you. Bring a notebook to take notes!”
- “I’m trying to bake something for the first time. Come be my assistant chef.”
Notice the pattern?
- You’re inviting her over with a specific reason.
- You’re making it seem casual and fun.
- You’re confident, even assuming she’ll say yes by giving her playful “conditions” like bringing popcorn or notebooks.
When to Use This Strategy
Use this trick when you suspect she’ll turn down a direct invite. If you already know she’s comfortable and likely to say yes, skip the excuses and just ask her directly.
A Quick Disclaimer
This strategy isn’t about manipulation—it’s about creating a comfortable, fun environment where she genuinely wants to spend time with you.
Need More Tips?
If you’ve been struggling with relationship challenges or have questions about how to handle specific situations with women, feel free to reach out to me on WhatsApp.
Let’s get to work on leveling up your game, bro.
Peace! 👊
