What to Do When Women Don’t Call You Back

Let’s talk about a topic that hits differently, especially when you’ve just spent your last airtime calling her number only for the call to go unanswered. Bro, I see you.

You get a woman’s number. You’re excited. You dial. She doesn’t pick. You try again. Nothing. At this point, the “ghosting” feels like a national anthem—every man knows it. But let’s calm down and figure out what’s really going on here.

Why do women ghost calls? Why do some give fake numbers? And most importantly, what do you do about it?

Relax, I’ve got you covered.

Why This Happens

Here are two things you need to know upfront:

Women hand out their numbers A LOT—sometimes because they like you, other times to escape an awkward situation.
Women expect men to call back (repeatedly) before they even consider returning the favor.

And here’s the hard truth: You might think you’re the only guy in her call log, but trust me, her phone has more “toasters” than a Jollof rice wedding buffet.

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Prevention Is Better Than Cure

Let’s flip the script. Instead of focusing on how to react when she doesn’t call back, let’s first discuss how to prevent this from happening in the first place.

1. Be Memorable

If all you did when you met her was mumble generic lines like “Can I get your number?”, she probably doesn’t even remember your face, let alone feel compelled to call you back.

Instead, give her a reason to remember you. Crack a funny joke, tease her a bit, or compliment her in a way that stands out. Example: “That your accent though, you sure say no be for American movies you rehearse am?” She’ll laugh, and you’ll stay in her mind.

2. Create Attraction First

If she gave you her number because you pressured her or just to get rid of you, she’s probably never picking up.

Your focus during that first meeting should be to spark interest and make her WANT to hear from you again. Attraction isn’t about being the nicest guy or promising her heaven and earth. It’s about creating chemistry that leaves her curious.

What to Do If She Doesn’t Call Back

OK, so you’ve done your part, gotten her number, and dialed it. Still nothing. What now?

1. Call Three Times Max

Women expect persistence, but there’s a fine line between confidence and desperation. Call her a couple more times over a few days—spread it out so you don’t come off as too eager. If she still doesn’t pick up, move on. You’re not chasing a ghost.

2. Keep It Cool

If you run into her again, don’t be awkward. Instead, address it with humor:
“Ah, so you mean MTN disconnected your line before you could call me back?”
Say it with a smile. Show her you’re not bothered, but you’re not blind either.

What If It’s a Fake Number?

Fake numbers happen. Let’s be real—some women give them out just to escape a situation without causing drama.

Instead of sulking, use this as feedback. Think back to your interaction. Did you come on too strong? Did you seem boring? Were you overly nervous? Whatever it is, identify it and work on improving it.

Remember, it’s not about blaming her; it’s about taking responsibility for how you can make the next interaction better.

Body Language and Non-Verbal Communication Matter

Here’s a pro tip: Women read body language like it’s the daily news.

If your shoulders are slouched, your eyes dart around nervously, or your tone sounds unsure, you’re already telling her you lack confidence—even if your words are perfect.

Stand tall, make eye contact, and let your body language match the confident man you want her to see.

Final Words

Women not calling back isn’t the end of the world. It happens to the best of us. What matters is how you handle it and learn from it.

Next time you get a number, make sure she’s as excited about hearing from you as you are about calling her. Spark attraction, be memorable, and maintain your cool.