Let me tell you a story.
A friend of mine shared something heartbreaking with me the other day.
He was walking home when he saw a couple arguing by the roadside. From the body language alone, it was obvious—the relationship was over.
The woman looked at the man and said:
“I’m not attracted to you anymore. I just don’t FEEL it.”
The guy? He was desperate.
“I’ll do anything to make this work. Just tell me what you want!”
Her response?
“That’s the problem. You just don’t get it.”
And just like that, it was over.
Now, let me ask you—have you ever been there?
Ever had a woman drift away no matter how hard you tried to hold on? The harder you worked, the more distant she became? You tried being the “good guy,” bending over backward, and treating her like a queen, but all it earned you was the “Let’s just be friends” card.
If you’ve been there, you know how much it sucks.
But here’s the real kicker: most of us don’t even understand WHY it happens.
Why Do Women Lose Interest?
Here’s the harsh truth: women don’t feel ATTRACTION for men who act weak, needy, or overly accommodating.
It doesn’t matter how logical it seems to treat her like royalty—if you’re being a Wuss, she’ll either:
- Leave you for someone who excites her.
- Stick around but slowly dominate you until you don’t recognize yourself.
But why does this happen?
The answer lies in understanding the fundamental truths of attraction.
The Rules of Attraction
- Attraction Isn’t a Choice
You can’t convince a woman to feel attraction. It’s not logical or controllable—it just happens.
And if you’re doing the wrong things, no amount of begging or reasoning will bring her back.
- Looks Aren’t Everything
Here’s something most guys in Africa struggle to believe: a woman’s attraction to you has little to do with how you look.
Sure, personal hygiene and dressing well help, but attraction for women is tied to your personality.
Dominance, confidence, humor, unpredictability, and a sense of adventure—these are the qualities that make women weak in the knees.
- Women Test Men—Constantly
From the moment she meets you, a woman is testing you.
She needs to know: “Is he really the confident, self-assured man he seems to be, or is it all an act?”
Her tests are subtle—she might nag, cancel plans, or ask you to do something unreasonable just to see how you’ll respond. Fail these tests, and she’ll lose interest faster than a small chops tray at a Nigerian wedding.
Stop Acting Like a Wuss
If you’ve ever found yourself pleading with a woman to stay or asking her “What do I need to do?”—congratulations, you’ve already lost.
Wussy behavior kills attraction.
Here’s why: women don’t want a man they can control. They don’t want someone who bends to their every whim.
They want a confident, self-assured MAN.
How to Be the Kind of Man Women Want
If you’re tired of being ghosted or ending up in the friend zone, it’s time to stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right ones.
Here’s how:
1. Stop Seeking Her Approval
Women can smell approval-seeking behavior from a mile away. If you’re constantly asking her what she wants, apologizing unnecessarily, or bending over backward to please her, she’ll see you as weak.
Instead, focus on what YOU want. Make decisions confidently, and let her adapt to YOUR pace.
2. Pass Her Tests
When a woman tests you (and she will), the key is to remain calm and confident.
- If she tries to cancel plans last minute, say, “No problem, but I’ll be busy later, so let’s reschedule for next week.”
- If she complains about something minor, smile and tease her with: “You’re so dramatic—it’s adorable.”
By staying cool and unbothered, you show her you’re not easily rattled.
3. Cultivate Masculine Traits
Women are naturally attracted to certain masculine qualities, such as:
- Dominance: Be assertive and take charge.
- Humor: Learn to tease her and make her laugh.
- Unpredictability: Keep things exciting by being spontaneous.
- Indifference: Don’t let her feel like she’s the center of your universe.
When you embody these traits, you become irresistible.
4. Stop Treating Her Like a Queen
Yes, you read that right.
Treating a woman like royalty doesn’t create attraction—it creates boredom. Instead, treat her like a friend who has to EARN your attention.
Remember, attraction isn’t about being “nice.” It’s about being a challenge.
Final Thoughts
If you want to attract women and keep them attracted, you need to stop acting like a Wuss.
Stop seeking approval, stop trying to “win her over” with niceness, and start showing her that you’re a confident, self-assured man who doesn’t NEED her to feel validated.
The more you embrace your masculinity and stop chasing, the more women will be drawn to you naturally.
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