Hey bro, let’s talk about something real.
Have you ever wondered why the people you really like never seem to feel the same way about you?
Does it feel like the more you show a girl how much you care about her, the more she pulls away or, worse, starts treating you like you’re invisible?
It’s frustrating, right?
Here’s the harsh truth: most girls don’t like the guys who openly show how much they like them. It’s not because you’re not good-looking or rich—it’s something deeper.
So why does this happen?
That’s what we’re breaking down today. Stick with me, and I’ll share some real-life questions from guys like you who’ve reached out to me, and the answers that have helped them turn things around.
Let’s Get Into It
Here are some of the most common questions I’ve received from guys struggling with this exact issue—and my no-holds-barred advice.
Question 1: “Why Do Girls Only Like Me for My Money?”
Toyin asks:
“Mr. Charles, I’m 30, successful, and comfortable financially. But every girl I date seems to only want me for my money. One girl left me after I paid for her university education. Another girl I really like now seems to be the same. I want her to love me for me, not for what I can give her. What can I do?”
My Answer:
Toyin, I get it. Money can attract women, but it won’t make them fall in love with who you are. When you lead with money, you’ll always attract girls who see you as an ATM.
Here’s how to fix it:
- Set Boundaries:
Don’t give in to her every request. Being generous is great, but if she feels she can get anything from you at any time, she’ll lose respect.
- Example: If she asks for something, don’t always say yes immediately. Tell her, “Let me think about it,” and decide on your own terms.
- Be Interesting:
Girls love men who can hold a fun, engaging conversation. If all you’re doing is calling to ask, “Have you eaten?”or “How was your day?”—you’re boring her to death. - Control the Narrative:
You’re not just a wallet. Show her your personality, your sense of humor, and your confidence. Women fall for men who make them feel something beyond material comfort.
Question 2: “How Do I Win Over a Colleague Who Won’t Even Give Me Her Number?”
Joe asks:
“I like this girl at work, but when I asked for her number, she refused. I even asked her to be friends, and she said, ‘Let’s see how it goes.’ I really like her—what should I do?”
My Answer:
Joe, let’s be real—this girl sees you as a nuisance. If she’s a colleague and she still won’t share her number, she’s probably worried you’ll disturb her peace.
Here’s how to recover:
- Dial It Back:
Stop chasing her so aggressively. When you come on too strong, you scare her off. - Focus on Building Rapport:
Start by having casual, light-hearted conversations at work. Make her laugh, share interesting stories, and get her to relax around you. - Stop Asking for Big Commitments:
Don’t ask for her number or friendship right now. Build trust first, and let her naturally feel comfortable sharing her details with you.
Pro Tip: Check out my article on how to talk to girls without being boring—it’s a game-changer.
Question 3: “What Should I Say to Start a Conversation with a Girl?”
Anonymous asks:
“I read one of your posts about avoiding boring questions like, ‘How are you?’ when chatting with girls. Can you give me examples of what to say instead? Also, how do I keep the conversation fun and teasing?”
My Answer:
Starting a conversation with a girl is easier than you think. It’s not about the perfect line—it’s about your energy and approach.
- Start with a Simple “Hi”
Seriously, just smile and say hi. Then follow up with something interesting like:
- “Hey, I need a female opinion on something. My friend just broke up with his girl, and he’s thinking of texting her back. What do you think—should he move on or try again?”
This not only sparks a fun discussion but also gets her to open up because you’re valuing her opinion.
- Tease Her Playfully
When she says something you can tease her about, go for it! For example:
- If she says, “I’m good at cooking,” you can respond with, “Sure you are—I hope your ogbono soup isn’t red and brown at the same time.”
- Be Relaxed and Fun:
Don’t overthink it. Conversations are like ping-pong—what she says will naturally lead to your next response. If you try too hard to sound clever, it’ll come off forced.
The Bottom Line
If girls treat you badly or ignore you, it’s not because you’re not good-looking or rich enough—it’s because you’re not creating the right emotional connection.
- Be Confident, Not Clingy: Stop begging for attention or approval.
- Be Fun, Not Boring: Learn how to hold a conversation that sparks interest and laughter.
- Be In Control: Don’t let a girl feel like she has you wrapped around her finger.
And remember, it’s never too late to turn things around. With the right mindset and strategies, you can have girls genuinely interested in you for who you are—not just what you can give them.
Got more questions? Drop them below or check out my eBook for step-by-step tips that actually work.
Stay confident, bro. You’ve got this. 💪
